Tony A. Version of Step 5 as found in his book, The Laundry List
We admitted to our Higher Power, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our childhood abandonment.
from page 58 of The Laundry List:
“Out of a searching and blameless inventory of our parents we come to see how we reacted, adapted, revolted and resisted — and ultimately abandoned ourselves. When we review the nature of our parents’ illness, we come to see how many of their behavior patterns replaced our youthful innocence and spontaneity; we see all the desparate adaptations, frustration and flight. Through these parent – taught mechanisms we truly abandoned ourselves.
All these harmful acquired behavior patterns we adopted are truly our childhood losses. We need to acknowledge them to our Higher Power, to ourselves and to another individual so that we can move toward a healthy self. The intent of this step is to help us recognize how we were emotionally abandoned as children and how we abandoned ourselves and became our parents.”
ACA Official Step 5 / Alanon Step 5
Admitted to God, to our selves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs